“Let’s Do It” And Other Phrases That Change Meaning After Having Children.

The last time I said, “let’s do it” to my husband, we were both standing over a mound of fresh dung that had been excreted on the carpet by my two-year-old. We were in the middle of potty training and it was very clear that he was against pooping in the toilet. He didn’t want any part of it. So there we stood, yellow dish gloves protecting our hands and a bottle of Resolve Stain Remover in my husband’s grasp, ready for its one job.

Since we’ve had kids, we have caught ourselves saying phrases that we have always said, but realized that they have taken on new meanings. Here are the top 6 phrases that may change for you after reproducing human life.


 1. “Let’s do it”

Before you had kids you would say this to your significant other in a sexy tone, with a seductive look in your eye and maybe even a vulgar hip thrust (if you’re that guy….like my husband.) Once you reproduce, you will still say it, but what you will mean is that there are actual chores that need to be accomplished and fornication is absolutely not one of them. The kitchen looks like a bomb was detonated in it, the laundry room can’t be seen because it’s hidden underneath mounds of soiled underpants, and your living room looks like Toy’s R Us just dumped a freight truck of their newest merchandise in it.

Keep your clothes on, quit hip thrusting at me and throw on some rubber gloves. Let’s get busy, let’s do it. There’s important crap to be done.

 2. “I’m tired”

Before you had kids you may have thought you were tired. You weren’t tired, you fool. You don’t even know what tired means before you have children dominating your life and sucking the energy out of your soul. Before, when you said you were “headed to bed” to the person you love, it meant that you were going to lay awake in the bed, probably scroll through social media sites and maybe get frisky if someone tried hard enough. But now, as parents, “I’m tired” means that you are going to bed. You’re going to close your eyes and sleep. You are actually tired and there is no point in trying to engage in sexual activity or you will lose an appendage. Arm, leg, genitalia… I don’t know, but something is definitely getting cut off if you touch me inappropriately.

I’m tired. I love you, Don’t touch me. Goodnight.

 3. “I need a drink”

Before you had kids you drank for fun. You only thought you had problems. Your boss sucks, your boy-toy cheated on you with your cousin, your dog pooped in the floor, blah blah blah. Your dog pooped the floor?…. my kid, a real life human, pooped on me today. Before you and your loved one had the brilliant idea to start a family, you would use any excuse as to why you needed a drink. Now, as parents, we drink with a purpose. The reason that we drink this adult beverage is laying in his bed cuddling his blankie at the moment. Sure they are cute little beings, but toddler tantrums, ungrateful attitudes, and teenage rebellion are REAL reasons to open the bottle.

You’re sad because Steve cheated again? Who cares. Steve was an asshole, and we all tried to tell you this.

 4. “Code words”

Before kids, we never needed code words because we were always “in the mood”. But now, you must create code words to use around your children unless you feel like having the talk with your 5-year-old daughter. “Want to play a game later?” is not an acceptable phrase. My husband tried this one once and in result my son refused to go to bed that night because he didn’t want to miss out on this game we were going to play. I mean, I don’t blame him. Poor choice of words, my dear. Now we say things like this, “Want to make the bed tonight? Feel like ironing some clothes? Should we clean out the pantry later?” These don’t sound fun to a toddler, or any adult. That is the point.

Just be sure you have discussed the code sentences with your mate, otherwise, this could be confusing. If not discussed prior, your wife may actually think that you are going to do something productive around the house, like… clean out the freakin’ pantry. Also, practice your delivery, “Wanna, you know….. clean out the pantry later babe…..?” (Insert repetitive eyebrow raises and slow wink here. Think, sexy pantry.) This will also help clarify your intentions. 

 5. “Family Vacations & Date Nights”

Now that you have children, these events are both an insane amount of work. Date nights now cost $1,247.50 once the dinner tab and babysitter are paid.

To go on nice vacations, you must be a millionaire or content with being in constant debt.

Packing for vacations is like packing to flee the city after a zombie apocalypse. You try to pack “only what is necessary” and you quickly realize everything you own is necessary in order for this trip to go smoothly.  We need all of our gear. We have four people in this family, which means we need seventeen bags…. common sense. Vacations used to be vacations, now it’s a test to see how strong your marriage is. If you come back from your “relaxing vacation” still married, then you have won.

How exciting!

 6. “I love you”

This is the one phrase that gets better after having children. You only thought you knew what true love was, but you don’t until you have a child. It’s a different kind of love. When you say you love your cat, it’s the same love I have for chocolate milk. The feelings are there, and extremely strong, but you have yet to experience a love that will bring out every emotion imaginable. You don’t say it just to say it, they aren’t filler words or something that you say out of habit… you mean it. With every fiber of your existence. This phrase is the best one of all.

Getting to say I love you to a sweet baby makes all the other things that change in your life completely worth it.

…..and now I want another.

Wanna clean out the pantry babe?


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I’m Jenn… A blunt, redheaded mommy who likes to look at motherhood in a slightly different way. This blog consists of stories of how I survive my job as a SAHM, a job that I love. I tend to like sarcasm served hot with a fresh side of dry humor.

Because who really likes to take life so seriously?

21 Comments on “Let’s Do It” And Other Phrases That Change Meaning After Having Children.

    • I’m so glad they make your day! Comments like the one you just left me, makes MY day! Thanks for taking the time to read 🙂

  1. How very true! My husband and I have often remembered how easy it was when we “thought” we had it hard. When my coworkers who are single or without children complain about how tired they are I just want to punch them lol YOU ARE NOT THAT TIRED! Being a parent, especially a parent of multiples, is literally a 24/7 JOB after getting off work at the OTHER job lol When this happens, I stop typing and working, look at them with TWO stink eyes, and secretly wish a couple difficult babies into their future lol But like you said, it is all worth it. Of course it is worth it. They are far too precious.

    • Thanks Nicci! Glad you enjoyed! After posting this I am very happy to see that my husband and I are not alone haha!

    • Thanks so much! Glad you can relate! (and glad we are not alone in this matter haha) Thanks for taking the time to read and comment 🙂

  2. Memories…We recall those days all to well. Also part of the fun is when the children are sick and one or both of you are sick. Many of their friends have at least one child. So, at least they have seen some of this already. But living the adventure makes it so much more real.
    This is only the second post of yours that I have read. I have smiled and laughed both times. Looking forward to more…

    • Thanks so much Greg! Glad you are enjoying them! I’m sure there will be many more to come, these kids make writing posts extremely easy for me!! Taking care of kids while you are sick is HORRIBLE!

    • I just laughed out loud at your comment! haha thanks for taking the time to read and comment! So glad you can relate! 🙂 (I too seem to be way to tired for adult activity myself, most days…)

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    • Thanks so much! Checked out your blog! Looks great! Just email me and let me know your thoughts 🙂

  4. You are so funny and so spot on! I now have teenagers and they make toddlers look easy! Now…they never talk to me, unless I am in the bathroom or on the phone! In the time it takes me to shower, there are holes in the wall and the dog has been shaved! My husband and I have hallway sex and have to remind ourselves to kiss each other, otherwise the terrorists win! I love them…I swear I do…but it is like living with drunk people! I admire the moms with manicures/pedicures that can afford all the after school stuff! As for me…I just hang in there with my drunk terrorists knowing that some day they will be real life human beings 🙂

  5. As a mother of GROWN children, yes they do grow up, look for them to turn human around 21 to 23. And let me tell you, it is glorious!! I love your posts because they remind me of what it was like when mine were small; and I’m so happy they grew up!

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